How to Recognize Jealousy And Overcome It

2015-02-06 By Kassandra 2 Comments

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Have you ever been in a relationship and had feelings of jealousy?

Maybe those feelings led to the belief that you couldn’t trust a person (even though there was no real proof of their wrong doing, except for a third party gossiper)?

Sometimes we all act a little crazy sometimes. It may be imagined, or we may have proof of wrong doing …

Regardless, we are all human and will most likely have these feelings at some point in our lives – especially if we have already had them before.

When you are hurt in the past, we sometimes allow those fears created by a past experience to influence how we think and feel today … Even with people that had nothing to do with that past experience. And it is in these times that we really need to take inventory of ourselves and work on not only overcoming these negative emotions, but to work through them and get to the root of the issue!

How to Recognize Jealousy & Overcome It

WHAT IS JEALOUSY?

(FEAR OF ANTICIPATED LOSS)

Jealousy is an emotion, and the word typically refers to the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something of great personal value, particularly in reference to a human connection.

WHAT IS ENVY?

(COVETING & WISHING HARM TO ANOTHER)

Envy (from Latin invidia) is an emotion which “occurs when a person lacks another’s superior quality, achievement, or possession and either desires it or wishes that the other lacked it”.

As you can see, jealousy differs from envy. Either emotion can pull you down, and even break down a relationship with someone (intimate or just a friend).

When can feelings of jealousy occur?

Jealousy can occur in a multitude of situations, but is normally seen:

when a person feels that a relationship that is of importance is threatened by someone else outside of the relationship
in the workplace
education (in class, amongst peers or even mentors)

Rather than letting jealousy infect your relationship with others, use its appearance in your life as a reason to work on yourself and to understand the fears that drive it.

REMEMBER: This is a feeling that is about you, not the other person. Even if the other person is doing what you fear … Your feeling is about you! This is a feeling that can do all harm and no good, so regardless of whether you are entitled to this emotion because your fear (false evidence appearing real) has weight and may have some truth to it … Jealousy is a feeling to release and not allow to darken your doorstep.

How Do I Recognize Jealousy?

There are many ways to recognize jealousy when it pops up in your life uninvited.

Jealousy is a combination of fear (fear of losing someone like a friend or spouse, or something like a current state of affairs) and anger.

Physical Feelings

Take note of which part of your body is affected:

– fear is often a dropping or clutching sensation in your stomach

– anger often manifests as a burning, tight sensation in your jaw and shoulders

When you notice this, start changing your beliefs and thoughts!

Now, these feelings may be caused by other things going on, but can help you recognize you’re having these feelings.

When you recognize you have the feeling of jealousy, then you can begin to deconstruct it!

Jealousy is a destructive emotion — and nothing good can come of it. Often it is about reliving an experience of failure from the past that continues to inform your level of trust (or lack thereof) toward people in the present, even though current conditions may be vastly different.

If you’re honest with yourself, you will realize that feeling jealous often rears its head at the same time you feel threatened, afraid of being abandoned or when you feel you just cannot trust the other person, no matter how little basis your lack of trust has.

Other motivators: insecurity, anger toward self, fear of abandonment or vulnerability

See How Others See It

Jealous behavior has an effect on the people around you, and not always the person who is the recipient of said feelings. It can have a ripple effect.

People who feel squeezed by a jealous friend or lover will generally feel scrutinized and defensive – this is natural. Defensiveness is a natural response to people under pressure and feel the need to justify their actions, thoughts, and whereabouts at all times. Being constantly questioned, badgered, and undermined? Wouldn’t you feel the need to be defensive?

How To Stop Being Jealous

Tackle Your Feelings Sooner Rather Than Later

Question your jealousy every time it emerges. Say to yourself: “Is this jealousy because I feel afraid or angry? Why am I feeling fear or anger here? Is there any real proof that validates these feelings?”

When you begin to question what makes you jealous in the moment, you can begin to take positive steps to manage your feelings constructively and without the cloud of negative emotion that typically accompanies jealousy.

Some questions to ask yourself include:

“Why am I jealous over this?”
“What is making me jealous?”
“What am I trying to keep?”
“Why do I feel threatened?”

Thoughts lead to feelings. Feelings lead to actions. Actions lead to results.

When you begin to have or express feelings of jealousy, change any false beliefs that may be fueling said jealousy (which is often false, irrational and baseless). If you change your belief (or your thoughts), you change the way you feel.

Choose to tell yourself a belief that is nurturing and supportive, and you’ll feel better. If you think it’s better to think negatively about a person or situation, then ask yourself what possible benefit that line of thinking brings you over thinking more healthily.

Thoughts create emotions and you have the choice to make the thoughts negative or positive.

When you begin taking steps to creating a happy and fulfilling life for yourself, you will find the anger and the fear easier to manage, removing the fuel for the jealous feelings.

Developing greater awareness of your thoughts and what triggers them is a large part of tackling the problem.
Be Honest and Communicate

Sometimes we can feel embarrassed by our feelings … Perhaps shameful that we even have them in the first place.

Hiding your feelings will only cause more issues, sometimes manifesting in health issues!

It may be scary, but you need to honestly communicate your feelings with the person (or people) with whom your feelings of jealousy came about in order to work through the issue and repair any damage that may have been caused.

When communicating, be sure to start the discussion in a safe environment.
Avoid placing blame (you are responsible for you own feelings).
Stick to “I” statements. [E.g.: “I felt this way when _.”]
Be compassionate.
Agree to come back to this safe place if the feelings happen again.
Apologize

If you’ve gone too far on the side of crazy jealous, you need to apologize to the person who was the brunt of this.

Realize that by not apologizing, you are in actual effect seeking to punish the other person for your feelings. The act of apologizing in itself shouldn’t be lengthy or complicated––the fact that you do apologize will help begin to break the cycle.
Get Stress Relief

When under stress, it is common to feel overwhelmed, anxious and insecure.

Stress can fuel jealousy and make your thoughts, feelings, actions more intense.

You can use exercise, meditation, adequate sleep, healthy nutrition, among many other ways to eliminate or alleviate the stress in your life.
Learn from Others

When you feel that fear creep in of losing something to someone who has more knowledge, know how, or skill than you feel that you do … Instead of feeling jealous, try to learn from them!

Use this an as opportunity to hone your own skills, improve yourself, and even learn something new (it’s good for your brain)!
Learn From Yourself

Learn to love yourself. Trust begins at home with yourself! When you learn to trust yourself, you can radiate this trust onto others

Jealousy is often driven by lack of self respect. How you you trust and respect others if you don’t trust or respect yourself?

Take inventory of your positive traits, accomplishments, and actions. If for whatever reason you find this task difficult, ask your friends what they value in their friendship with you.

Put the list somewhere you can see it regularly to remind yourself that you were equipped with great skills, talent, and features.

Don’t compare yourself to others. We are all born with our own unique talents and abilities. By comparing yourself to someone else, you are comparing your person and your life to someone else who has lived different experiences than you and who has done things that you have not yet accomplished!

Only compare yourself to yourself. You want more out of life? What are you doing to get it? Are you a better version of yourself today than you were yesterday? If not, what can you do to change that and improve you?

Remind yourself daily through a journal, affirmations or other effective way that you have what it takes, like the song goes, to be fulfilled in life.

Practicing healthy thinking must be a daily, recurring action––that’s why it involves constant practice. In time, the healthier thinking processes will take over the destructive ones and help you to become a whole person, resilient, capable and not prone to jealous thoughts.

Work on aspects that you have that you lack self esteem in. The more confidence you have in yourself, the less likely you are to feel jealous.

If you’re interested in more information, be sure to check out the following links:

And one more big shout out to my friends and business partners! This post was inspired today by The Super Women Connection when they provided this post that includes an audio on the discussion as well as a reminder to FIND YOUR HAPPY PLACE (thank you Alecia) !

I know there have been many times in my life where I’ve had to overcome feelings of jealousy … I still have them to this day!

But I’m so thankful to be around people who are making changes in people’s lives in so many ways … Because they help you focus on your dreams and how to achieve them!

If you’d like to find out how to be a part of that and get daily information on overcoming obstacles, be sure to check out the below presentation!

How to Fix Any Problem? Tell Me How You Make Toast

2015-02-05 By Kassandra Leave a Comment

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Have you ever been faced with an issue where you had to work together with someone to accomplish some task?

Ever been frustrated when you explain what’s needed to be done and they seem totally incompetent at what seems to be an elementary explanation of what you need?

Try explaining to someone how you make toast and see if they can draw it out. You would be surprised at how different we all think.

I was introduced to this a long time ago in a summer camp for the science and math nerds like myself who wanted to get ahead in school. (Yeah, I’m one of those and proud of it!)

But I had forgotten about it until it was presented to me again in a Tony Robbins Unleash the Power Within Seminar in Dallas in 2014,wherein Tony had us have pair up and explain to each other, back to back, a photo of something. (Maybe it wasn’t at a Tony event, but something very similar to it.)

I was so detailed about what I was seeing, I’d say things like:

About 1/4 of the width inside from the left, draw a line down the page.
About halfway down that line, draw a circle with about an inch diameter.

Things like that. The outcome?

Something kind of similar but with a few jarring differences …

… and then I was again reminded of this same process when I was watching this video:

Got A Wicked Problem? First, Tell Me How You Make Toast

The simple exercise in this video is where you have someone draw out how they make toast with no words – kind of like charades!

And from Tom Wujec‘s findings, this simple process reveals unexpected truths about how we solve our biggest, most complicated problems at work.

It’s truly incredible how much of a difference there is between people and how they not only explain a problem, but how their minds work in formulating a process, what’s required, and how intricate the issue is in one’s own mind.

The fact that there are so many different ways to explain how to make toast? Shows that there is so much to learn in the ways of communication, problem solving, and the like.

What I found interesting about this is that when people have too few steps (nodes) or links, information may be missing. But if there’s too many, things become cluttered and chaotic.

Lessons Learned:

— when you want to communicate something visually, have between 5 and 13 nodes

— we intuitively know how to break down complex things into simple things and bring them back together

— break down a problem onto Post It notes so you can work out the issue better

— people build on top of each other’s ideas, and when you work in a group you integrate the diversity of each individual’s point of view (sticky notes help because it’s not one person drawing on a board but everyone’s ideas all together … it’s fluid)

— there’s a visual revolution taking place

— those who see their worlds in moveable nodes and links (you’ll have to watch the video for that explanation) have an edge of overcoming issues than those that think statically

— one company reclaimed over $50 million in revenue by following this process for their business

I also found it really interesting that in this experiment, if the groups did their test in complete silence, they did it better & more quickly. Talking gets in the way!

So next time you’re confronted with an interesting challenge, remember what design has to teach us. Make your ideas visible, tangible, and consequential. It’s simple, it’s fun, it’s powerful, and I believe it’s an idea worth celebrating.

If you would like more information on this process, be sure to check out DrawToast.com!

I hope this video helped shed some light on why it is that people can be so frustrating when they don’t follow your instructions on how to make toast. 😉

So remember! How do you fix any problem? Tell me how you make toast.

So! How do you make toast?

Has there ever been a time that you were explaining something that seemed trivial to you but became difficult for someone else to understand what you needed? What did you do to come to a resolution? Did you communicate and clarify? Or did you just do it yourself?

If you just got fed up and decided to do it yourself (which I’ve done on many an occasion) you need to start thinking outside the box.

And I know something that can help you do that! Check out the presentation below for more information on how to improve your brain to allow you to think more clearly, more creatively, and be more successful in just about everything you do. ^_^

10 Killer Leadership Skills

2015-02-04 By Kassandra Leave a Comment

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Are you in a position of leadership, either in your place of work or perhaps among your friends?

Do you influence others around you?

Do you wish be an empowering person? Lifting others up and helping them achieve their greatness?

Leadership:

noun

the position or function of a leader, a person who guides or directs a group
ability to lead
an act or instance of leading, guidance or direction

There’s a lot of books out there you can read on being a great leader (anything by John C Maxwell is a great place to start!) … But I recently ran across this article written by Tara Jaye Frank on the Be Leaderly site a friend forwarded to me.

These 10 Killer Leadership Skills are things that every leader needs to possess and hone if they wish to be effective, set a high bar for greatness, and lead the way for others to do the same.

10 Killer Leadership Skills

Killer Leadership Skill #1: Empathy

People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.

Be an ACTIVE listener! Don’t think about what you’ll say next.

Understand yourself as well as those around you.

Although discerning a mutually beneficial path may be tumultuous, it’s better to ensure all parties involved get what they need than for you to be right.

The most effective leaders are very emotionally intelligent, and make others feel not only understood and respected, but also empowered.

Killer Leadership Skill #2: Vision

As a leader, you must be able to effectively cast your vision. If you are not able to communicate and openly share this with others, who will want to follow you?

Whether it’s a new singular product idea or new business, a strong vision outlines the big picture. Hard work fills it in.

Killer Leadership Skill #3: Agility

Agility is the ability to fluidly take in new information and be able to re-examine goals and plans.

What once was a good decision yesterday may not be so today.

Great leaders can quickly change course without causing extraneous drama.

Killer Leadership Skill #4: Story

Great storytellers are able to inspire others and get people to buy into their vision. Not in a negative way like a slimy salesperson, but in such a way that other people see it and want to be a part of it.

Are you able to understand context, create a point of view that compels others, and tell a memorable tale about it?

Killer Leadership Skill #5: Strategy

Great leaders are able to identify pertinent information and form related (and often times to others unrelated) patterns into opportunities. They see meaning and options where others don’t.

And then they take action.

Killer Leadership Skill #6: Inspiration

If you are a great leader, you inspire others. They willingly will take personal risks for you. They buy into your vision, believe in you and what you stand for, and trust you.

When you inspire others, it is your vision, your integrity, and your ability to be open and honest that instills in others the craving to be part of something greater than themselves.

Killer Leadership Skill #7: Creative Problem Solving

“Think outside the box.”

We’ve all heard this term, right? While this term may be a bit out dated, it’s basically telling you to develop the skill to be able to view a problem from new or different angles.

Sometimes you must experiment with multiple paths in order to sharpen a team’s ability to uncover relevant solutions for whatever problem (or as Zig Ziglar likes to call them opportunities) lie before you.

Killer Leadership Skill #8: Presence

Poise. Posture. The “EF Hutton” effect.

Whatever you want to call it, it is the certain je nai sais qua that happens when a leader walks into a room … You just know they do. Their stance, the way they talk, the way they interact with others …

When a leader speaks up, people lean forward to listen. The people around them are trying to get every little drop of knowledge and wisdom they can from them.

It’s as if these people carry gravity you can feel with the things they say, do and think.

Killer Leadership Skill #9: Authenticity

You must be transparent in times of change if you wish to be a great leader.

You must be vulnerable in times of loss and not hide it. People need to know you’re human – not some robot.

You must always be honest and genuine. If you’re not? People see through that crap eventually.

Be relateable. Be trustworthy.

Be someone of integrity.

When you are an effective leader with authenticity? You will mobilize teams faster because they know you are someone of your word they can trust.

Killer Leadership Skill #10: Courage

Question your own assumptions. Sometimes the things you believe to be true are in fact the complete opposite. Always question and strive for better, even when the times get tough or you may be ridiculed.

Great leaders ask tough questions, tell the truth, and expect the best of themselves and others.

Bust up the norm! Don’t be afraid to be different.

It’s sad and true that the average person leads an average life because they do average things.

A true leader is not average. But in order to be above average (or to even excel) you must do, say, and think things that the average person won’t. And sometimes this can cause issues with friends, family, and loved ones. But take courage!

Be the leader they’re looking for … Because everyone is looking for someone to follow to greatness …

Be bold! Inspire boldness in others around you.

Now, obviously 10 is not a magic number and there are a ton of traits one admires in the people they follow … So!

What are your thoughts? What’s missing from this list, in your amazing opinion? 😀

Leave a comment at the bottom and let me hear from YOU!

And if you would like to improve your leadership skills, definitely check out the presentation below.

3 Uplifting Reminders to Dream Big

2015-02-03 By Kassandra 10 Comments

Have you ever had a moment in time where you wanted to give up? Where it felt like your dreams could never come to fruition?

I’ve been there.

But I’m here to tell you – NEVER give up!

Too often we allow failures or setbacks … Or kinks in our plans to stop us from moving forward … To doubt our own greatness.I want to inspire you to KEEP GOING!

Don’t let go of your dreams … Keep fighting for them! They were put in your hearts for a reason and you have all of the ability to accomplish them …

Don’t. Give. Up!

Best Motivational Video Ever – Johnny Wimbrey

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r0QG8s8LYU0?rel=0

It’s true. We are blinded from the truth. We have through lack of ambition, feelings of entitlement, and the “98% mentality” allowed others to form and shape our lives.

We have become slaves. Sheeple. We were born into bondage, but that doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter who you want to blame your circumstances on. “No one can stop you like you.” – Johnny Wimbrey

When you’re going through hell, the worst thing you can do is stop. – Johnny Wimbrey

“Sell yourself EVERY DAY on your abilities, on what you’re doing, on the goal that you want to reach.” – Les Brown

“Average people lead average lives because they do average things.” – Johnny Wimbrey

“You’ve got to be so relentless, regardless of what comes down the path that you’re always looking for a way to get over, that you’re always looking for a way to break through, always looking for a way that you can win …” – Les Brown

If you develop your gifts, you will travel far. So what’s keeping you?
Why Do We Fall – Motivational Video

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mgmVOuLgFB0?rel=0

“Nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you get it. It’s about how hard you GET hit and KEEP MOVING FORWARD! How much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how WINNING is done!” – Rocky Balboa

“Pain is temporary. It may last for a minute, or an hour, or a day. But eventually it WILL subside, and something ELSE will take it’s place. If I QUIT, however, it will last FOREVER.”

“The margin for error is so small … I mean, 1/2 a step too late or too early and you don’t quite make it. 1/2 second too slow or too fast, you don’t quite catch it. The inches we need are EVERYWHERE around us. They’re in every BREAK of the game, every minute, every second!”

“You got a dream? You gotta protect it. People that can’t do something themselves want to tell you YOU can’t do it. You want something? Go get it! Period.”

“Don’t be afraid to fail. You can’t always win, but don’t be afraid of making decisions.”

“You have to believe that something DIFFERENT can happen.”

“He who says he can and he who says he can’t are both usually right.” – Henry Ford

“Most of you say you want to be successful, but you don’t want it BAD. You just kind of want it. You don’t want it BADDER than you want to PARTY! You don’t want it as much as you want to be COOL. MOST of you don’t want success as much as you want to SLEEP!”

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.”

“Dig deep down and ask yourselves, ‘Who do you want to be?’ And figuring out for yourselves what makes YOU happy? No matter how CRAZY it may sound to other people.”

“Make a CHOICE, right? You just DECIDE! What is gonna be, WHO you’re gonna be, HOW you’re gonna do it. Just decide!”

“Why not? … Why can’t I be the best … ?”

“Get up and don’t ever give up!”

“You can stay here, get the shit kicked out of us … or … we can fight our way back… into the light … We can CLIMB out of hell …one inch at a time …”

“To be able at any moment to sacrifice what you are for what you will BECOME. Most of you won’t be successful because when you studying and you get tired? You quit! ‘I don’t do well in math.’ You right! You ain’t never studied! ‘I’m not good at writing’ – cause you ain’t never WRITTEN before!”

“Talent you have NATURALLY. SKILL is only developed by hours and hours and hours of beatin’ on your craft.”

“If you are not making someone else’s life BETTER, then you are WASTING your time.”

“Don’t cry to give up. Cry to keep going! Don’t cry to QUIT! You already in PAIN you already HURT — get your REWARD for it!”

“Now, if you know what you’re worth? Go out and GET what you’re worth! But you gotta be willing to take the hits and not point fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him or her or anybody! COWARDS do that and that ain’t you! You’re better than that!”

“Every day is a new day. Every moment is a new moment!”

“I’mma show YOU how great I am.” – Muhammed Ali

“You have the power… to make this life a wonderful adventure!”

Now … what are YOU gonna do?

“Because limits – like fears – are often just an illusion.”
The most motivating 8 min of your life!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MYKsbld6LII?rel=0

“Don’t ever let someone tell you you CAN’T do something.”

“Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure AROUND you. We were ALL meant to shine as children do. It’s not just in some of us, it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

“Since when are you the quitting kind? … So you didn’t make the dress list. There are greater tragedies in the world. … In this lifetime, you don’t have to prove nothin’ to nobody except yourself! And after all that you’ve gone through if you ain’t done that by now? It ain’t never gonna happen!”

Don’t regret a moment in life because you chose to quit … because you let someone else get the best of you.

Do your very best. Regardless of ANYONE who tries to keep you down. Don’t quit on you!

Dream Big. Never Give Up.

Help OTHER PEOPLE achieve success and YOU will be successful.

And with that, I’d like to ask you …

What is stopping you from achieving your goals? Your dreams and ambitions? How are you overcoming those obstacles?

I heard the following song when I was at a retreat while I was in college. I always play it in my head whenever I’m feeling down … Whenever I think about quitting. It always raises my spirits and reminds me to live life as it was meant to … To give me strength … And to DREAM BIG!

I hope it does for you, too …

If you know the above, but you don’t know where to turn to keep reminding yourself … If you need to hear from other people who have been where you are …

Or if you just want to be around the thinking that out thinks you … Then check out the below presentation!

And be sure to leave me a comment – I would love to hear what these videos instilled in you!

29 Quintessential Success, Money And Life Quotes

2015-02-02 By Kassandra 6 Comments

Do you enjoy listening to wise words from people you admire?

Do you look for and take time to analyze information that will help provide you with progress toward a more prosperous and fulfilled life?

I’m sure you do – otherwise you probably have no ambition!

I know that most people, including myself, have at one point in life struggled with their finances. And this can be tough. Especially when you don’t have someone to model after or knowledge on how to decrease your debt and increase your wealth.

So today I wanted to provide some wonderful, inspiring, and quite honestly essential quotes on success, money, and life.

“Great quotes encapsulate big ideas in few words. They inspire, motivate, and encourage in a memorable way.” – Thank you Rob Berger!

Too many people spend money they earned… to buy things they don’t want… to impress people that they don’t like.

Will Rogers

Have you ever done this? I know I have. I’ve gone to places I didn’t want to, spent money I really didn’t need to spend (or didn’t have) and all to do what? Impress someone? Feel like I fit in?

It can be hard to say no to your friends, but keep in mind you don’t HAVE to spend money to have a good time! And if you don’t like the place chosen? Suggest somewhere else!

And you DEFINITELY don’t have to be around people you don’t like. This is YOUR life. You should spend the 24 hours a day you have with the people you like who lift you up, and live a life of happiness, wealth and prosperity.

And if you don’t like your life? Do something to change it! Be around people who have what you want. Learn from them! Don’t be afraid to ask for help or advice from them. Every successful person started from somewhere — and most of them were not born with it, either!
An investment in knowledge pays the best interest.

Benjamin Franklin

This quote is true on so many levels.

Did you know that as of 2008, 1/3 of all high school graduates never read another book after school? And as per this site:

When I was first told of these statistics, I was floored!

It’s no wonder my success coaches always tell me to read 10 pages of a “good book” a day! That’s 3,650 pages a year (or about 10+ books) … Think about how more well versed, educated, and knowledgeable you would be among your peers if you just read 10 pages a day on a subject that would advance your life …

Do you read daily? If so, what books do you read? Leave a comment at the bottom!
I will tell you the secret to getting rich on Wall Street. You try to be greedy when others are fearful. And you try to be fearful when others are greedy.

Warren Buffett

I hear this all the time from investors. Kind of like the advice of “buy low sell high” … But more like “Don’t do what everyone else is doing” …
Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure nineteen six, result happiness. Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure twenty pound ought and six, result misery.

Charles Dickens

Basically save more than you spend. It’s that simple.

If you spend more than you earn, you will have problems.
Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.

Thomas Edison

Seriously. If people truly understood this, we would not only have more entrepreneurs, we would have more people with higher self esteem and higher levels of happiness.

Too often, when introduced to something that could have a powerful impact on one’s life, people are too afraid of it and make weird excuses to not take advantage of said opportunity.
What we really want to do is what we are really meant to do. When we do what we are meant to do, money comes to us, doors open for us, we feel useful, and the work we do feels like play to us.

Julia Cameron

When you do what you love, it no loner seems like work, right? And when you do what you love, what you’re passionate about? Money comes! It’s weird and woo woo … But it’s true. Law of Attraction!
Many people take no care of their money till they come nearly to the end of it, and others do just the same with their time.

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

We all only have 24 hours in day … but most of us squander it. Whether it’s vegging out in front of the electronic income reducer (T.V.), wasting time with people we don’t like, or trading time for money …

Instead of doing this, why not spend your time doing something that will help move you forward with your dream? Why not do things you love? Do things that challenge you?
Formal education will make you a living; self-education will make you a fortune.

Jim Rohn

Pretty straight forward.
Financial peace isn’t the acquisition of stuff. It’s learning to live on less than you make, so you can give money back and have money to invest. You can’t win until you do this.

Dave Ramsey

Live on less than you make so you don’t spend more than you earn. Makes sense, right?

And giving (whether in time or money) provides the fulfillment of a part of a human need as per Tony Robbins.
Happiness is not in the mere possession of money; it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of creative effort.

Franklin D. Roosevelt

For those that expect something for nothing? They’ll never understand this.
Empty pockets never held anyone back. Only empty heads and empty hearts can do that.

Norman Vincent Peale
I think this speaks for itself, too.
It’s good to have money and the things that money can buy, but it’s good, too, to check up once in a while and make sure that you haven’t lost the things that money can’t buy.

George Lorimer

If you only focus on earning money, what good is that if you lose your friends and family? If you lose yourself?
If money is your hope for independence you will never have it. The only real security that a man will have in this world is a reserve of knowledge, experience, and ability.

Henry Ford
Money is a terrible master but an excellent servant.

P.T. Barnum

If you allow money to rule you, you will only get hurt. You will focus on the lack of it.

But if you make money your servant, you can do so many things. Not only can money pay for your bills, but it will allow you to achieve the dreams you have PAST your bills…
I’m a great believer in luck, and I find the harder I work the more I have of it…

Thomas Jefferson

I personally don’t believe in luck. I believe you create it – by having the proper mindset, focus, and action!
You must gain control over your money or the lack of it will forever control you.

Dave Ramsey

If you do not follow the advice of these quotes (that of living below your means, investing in yourself, investing in ventures that will create a passive residual income, etc) then you will always be worried about money …

Worried about how you’ll earn enough to pay bills … Worried about how you can save up enough to take that vacation ….

Wouldn’t you rather be in a position where you wouldn’t have to worry about money?

Where money didn’t control your every purchase decision? (Or any decision?)
Every time you borrow money, you’re robbing your future self.

Nathan W. Morris

When you borrow money, you’re basically spending money you don’t have. Which means that is that much less money you’ll have in the future because you have to pay off what you took from your future self.
Rich people have small TVs and big libraries, and poor people have small libraries and big TVs.

Zig Ziglar

Falls along the same lines of investing in yourself!
Never spend your money before you have it.

Thomas Jefferson

You don’t want to steal from yourself, now do you?
It’s not how much money you make, but how much money you keep, how hard it works for you, and how many generations you keep it for.

Robert Kiyosaki

This is something I try to have people understand because it is of the utmost importance if you wish to leave a legacy for your children and lead a life with less stress than the average person.

Again – live below your means and don’t spend more than you earn.

Make your money work for you by investing in things that will have a return on your investment … Like stocks, rental properties, a network marketing business that will create multiple passive residual income streams … THAT is how you create generational wealth … Because then you can also teach your family to do the same!
Without continual growth and progress, such words as improvement, achievement, and success have no meaning.

Benjamin Franklin

Personal development is key for progress! Without it, you fall prey to the misguided ideas of people who feel entitled and do not understand how entrepreneurship works … those who feel that the rich are evil and should be punished for their hard work …
The only place where success comes before work is in the dictionary.

Vidal Sassoon
Success is walking from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.

Winston Churchill

If you allow the times you have failed to stop you from continuing to progress toward a desired dream? Then you are a failure.

BUT! If you do not allow those failures to stop you, then you are a success! Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal.
Don’t let the fear of losing be greater than the excitement of winning.

Robert Kiyosaki

Sometimes people are presented with opportunities that are really exciting and can change their lives for the better! But they allow their fears to get in the way.

Fear that they’re not enough. Fear that they might lose. Fear that they won’t be successful.

But you MUST allow the excitement of winning to overcome that … Or else you will never achieve the goals are really in your heart!
Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success.

Dale Carnegie
We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.

Winston Churchill
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do.

Mark Twain

Why not take a chance on yourself? You’d be amazed with how strong you are … How smart and creative you are …

But if you’re too scare to take a change or ask for help to build your future … You will live with regret.
Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Sometimes it may be hard to blaze your own trail. And you may lose some “friends” along the way.

But just remember – if it’s worth doing, it’s worth the risk. And while there’s room for everyone at the top, not everyone is ready to be there.
Do the one thing you think you cannot do. Fail at it. Try again. Do better the second time. The only people who never tumble are those who never mount the high wire. This is your moment. Own it.

Oprah Winfrey

There are many ways to save, invest, and earn money.

What are some of the ways you save, invest or earn money?

I would love to see your comments below!

If you’re looking to save, you can check out some of my previous posts, like 5 Useful Tools to Manage Money.

If you’re looking to invest, there’s so many tools at your disposal!

But if you’re looking to earn money … Keep in mind that the best way to earn money is to do so by investing in something that will provide you with residual income. Whether it is owning a rental property, a network marketing business, or some other type of investment that makes money on your money’s money … Just do it! We all only have 24 hours a day … do you really want to spend it in a cubicle and / or working to make someone else rich?

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