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Having A Pity Party For One?

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People find it easy and convenient to blame everyone else for everything going on in our lives.

Most people are looking for pain, drama, being broke, struggling, dropping every excuse in the book about childhood problems & dysfunction you grew up in that is stopping you from becoming successful.

Don’t like your friends? Then why are you still hanging around them?

Do you really expect your life or career to be ANY DIFFERENT if you continue to mess around with the same things, same people, same situations you’re already in?

Stop being lazy!
Stop being full of excuses!

Get off the pity pot expounding every excuse as to why you’re not winning.

It’s you. YOU are the reason you’re not winning.
You keep messing with negative, evil and dysfunctional people.
So why do you expect positive results?

Stop complaining about being out of shape – DO SOMETHING about it!
Start going to the gym or find ways to exercise at home.

Stop looking at your tummy when you get out of the shower.
Start focusing on how great you’ll feel when you take action to look better.

Stop eating everything in sight.
Start eating healthier and begin portion control.

YOU are the reason you look the way you look.
YOU are the reason you are unemployed. (Yes, that’s right.)
YOU are the reason your surroundings are so dysfunctional and negative.

You have the ability to be broke and in the slums but still be living a happy, peaceful life.

It’s a choice. We all have it.

But we’re being raised in a generation of people who come up with any and every excuse as to why they can’t get ahead …
Why they’re not winning.
Why they’re not spending time with their kids and family.

Excuses sound best to those making them up.

Nothing has changed and nothing WILL change because you have convinced yourself that everything is wrong, negative and nothing will change.

So it won’t.

Change your mind? Change your life.

If nothing around you changes, change the things around you.

You have THOUGHT your way to depression.
You have THOUGHT your way to negativity and lack.
You have THOUGHT your way to holding on to someone you broke up with a while ago.

Break through the burden you’re carrying.

Stop turning every positive thing someone says into something negative.

Every time someone says something to inspire you, you turn everything negative. All that they are trying to do to boost you up you flip it and manipulate it because you are DETERMINED to be negative and miserable.

But today is a new day!

What will you do with it?

Enough is enough! Do you really want to stay where you are?

You can be more successful than you could ever imagine, but you have fought your way into sabotaging your own life.

You cannot expect positive results if all you think about, all you do, your entire world is negative. It doesn’t work like that. It just won’t happen.

The outcome of your life and careers are based solely on your own choices.

For every level of success? There’s another obstacle to overcome.
But take it a day at a time. As you overcome challenges, you grow and become stronger.

Don’t just watch this, become inspired and do the same things you’ve always done.

Do something different.

Take a chance on yourself and your success.

Entitlement of the Masses

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Entitlement.
The feeling or belief that you deserve to be given something (such as special privileges). [Merriam-Webster]
Based in concepts of social equality or enfranchisement. [Wikipedia]

It’s incredible what people believe they are entitled to these days.

I know it’s been a long time coming, and you can’t really blame anyone thing on what has caused people to believe they are entitled to something when they have not worked for nor earned it.

Those who decide to defy their superiors, their managers, or anyone who supersedes their authority, they take it upon themselves the negative consequences – even if they are simply repercussion.

They may try to explain away their behavior, but they are the ones that create the environment around them.

When you create the world around you, you are responsible for how you respond to the stimuli around you. For example, should you decide to be on your phone when you are supposed to be at work, you will suffer the consequences if you are caught.

And if you’re not caught? Keep in mind you’re being paid to do a particular job – not goof off.

Is it important? Then ask your boss if you can take the time to write that text message or make that two minute call.

Some people say it is better to beg forgiveness than to ask permission. But at what cost?

This way of thinking will only bring you suffering. It may allow you to find some sliver of happiness in whatever it is you decide to bend rules for, but in both a job as well as in a business – if you do not follow the rules, negative consequences will follow.

It may not be today.
It may not be tomorrow.
It may not even be while you are in your current position.

I am a firm believer in karma, or what goes around comes around.

The same goes for being in business.

As an entrepreneur, you have no one to blame but yourself for not taking action and following in the footsteps of those who came before you.

Joined a home business but it didn’t work for you?

You can only blame yourself.

If it was illegal, the company wouldn’t have been around for more than a couple years. And if it didn’t work, no one would be successful.

People can find an excuse for anything! Only people of integrity & fortitude take responsibility for their actions instead of blaming others.

It’s easy to blame your boss for firing you. But let me ask you this …

Were you doing the job you signed up for?
Were you following the rules?
Did you ever do anything that didn’t feel quite right?

While these may be rhetorical questions, I’m sure you can see where this is going.

Now sometimes yes – some people are let go for the wrong reasons. But instead of taking offense to being fired, take it as a learning experience.

I promise – no one is out to get you. And if you really felt that way while working there?

Why did you stay so long?

If you must have a job, find one you enjoy doing. Be sure it doesn’t suck the life out of you. Because if it does?

If you’re not excited to go to work every day? You won’t give 110% of you’re best effort.

If you’re an entrepreneur? You’ve got no one to blame but you my friend.

And if you’re lost? Find a mentor or accountability partner.

Looking to get out of your current job and find your passion?

Click here to join my team! We want to see you succeed, but we won’t accept your excuses.

So man (or woman) up and take control of your life, my friends!

Integrity and character are two of the strongest traits to have. It comes from being accountable for your actions.

Step up TODAY, my friends!

What Physically Happens To Your Brain When You Don’t Get Enough Sleep

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SLEEP.

It’s one of my favorite things to do when I’m not awake.

After a good night’s rest, I feel happy, energized, ready to take on my day!

But over the last few years, I have had very little sleep … For one reason or another.

Weird things started happening.

Felt more tired … more exhausted …

I expressed lack of interest in things that used to give me joy …

Didn’t really want to be around a whole bunch of people too often for too long …

Sound familiar?

It came to a point where I felt maybe I was depressed … Maybe something was wrong.

Have you ever felt this way?

Maybe it’s because you’re not getting enough sleep!

I’ve made a few posts about this before:

But I recently came across this article and infographic that I felt really explains a WHOLE LOT about some things … (like memory loss or altered memories) … So I wanted to share with you to impress upon you how important it is to get a full 7-8 hours of sleep.

This Is What Happens To Your Brain When You Don’t Sleep

brain sleep

Lost Memories

The hippocampus (a moon shaped structure in the temporal lobe) exhibits a distinct pattern of neural activity when the waking mind encodes (learns) new information.

Scientists believe our brain later “replays” the same activity pattern while we’re sleeping to help the info stick.

So basically? Lose sleep and lose long-term memories.

Anger

Sleep loss primes us to focus on negative experiences, misinterpret facial expressions, and even pick fights.

Emotional volatility may partly be a product of interrupted communication between brain regions. FMRI of the well-rested brain shows connectivity between the amygdala (a limbic system structure critical to emotional processing) and the medial prefrontal cortex (which helps regulate feelings).

Sleep deprivation cuts this connection, letting your revved up amygdala (and your mood) run wild.

Impaired Wit

Skimp on sleep? Then the clever commentary may not flow so easily.

Sleep loss affects cognitive processes like divergent thinking, which helps us switch topics nimbly during conversation.

Scientists found that activity in the inferior frontal gyrus increases when sleep-deprived people tried to list uses for different objects, suggesting the brain draws on divergent thinking to compensate for strained cognitive functioning.

Hallucinations

The well-rested brain filters stimuli (noise, light, smell, etc) to separate what matters from what doesn’t and prevent sensory overload.

When the brain can’t filter the information coming in, chaos ensues!

After pulling an all-nighter, people may begin to anticipate things that aren’t there, including objects.

Head in the Clouds

We all lose focus from time to time, but brain activity linked to attention lapses changes when people sacrifice sleep.

After a good night’s rest, these lapses correspond to altered thalamus function and less-active frontal and parietal networks — which basically means we tune out when we’re bored.

But when sleep-deprived people space out, they also exhibit impaired visual sensory processing, suggesting a whole other level of disengagement with the world.

In short?

Losing sleeps turns you into Phoebe from friends. (My boyfriend would probably really agree with this one.)

False Memories

The sleep-starved brain may fail to encode  memories successfully in the first place (thanks to the hippocampus as well as the prefrontal cortex and parietal lobe regions).

One study found that people are more likely to incorporate misinformation into memories of events observed after a night without sleep.

Cerebral Shrinkage

One study shows that healthy adults getting poor sleep lose volume in the frontal, temporal, and parietal lobes.

Researchers don’t yet understand if sleep loss causes shrinkage or vice versa.

Slurred Speech

The temporal lobe (brain region associated with language processing) is highly active in well-rested people …

But inactive in their exhausted and enunciation-challenged counterparts.

Cronut Binges

Sleep loss corresponds to decreased activity in the frontal lobe (which controls decision making) and more activity in the amygdala (a key player in fear detection).

Together? These neural changes create a brain mechanism that dulls judgement and ratchets up desire – the ideal mind state for scarfing down fistfuls of bacon.

Risky Decisions

When sleep deprived people prepare to make economic decisions, the brain’s reward center in the prefrontal cortex lights up, suggesting they expect to win (e.g. make money).

But when risky choices don’t pan out, people’s brain activity decreases in the region related to punishment and aversion (the anterior insula) suggesting they don’t care about losing money as much as they would on a good night’s sleep.

Brain Damage

Add all-nighters to the list of things that kills brain cells — in this case? The brain stem!

The damage may be irreparable, making “catch up on lost sleep” a poor excuse for snoozing until noon on the weekends.

Please note that all of this information comes from reputable, scientific entities as outlined in the infographic.

So you can believe you’re “getting enough sleep/rest” at only 4-5 hours a night …

But science says otherwise.

18 Things Mentally Strong People Do

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18 Things Mentally Strong People Do

#1: They move on.

They don’t waste time feeling sorry for themselves.

#2: They keep control.

They don’t give away their power.

#3: They embrace change.

They welcome challenges.

#4: They stay happy.

They don’t complain. They don’t WASTE ENERGY on things that they cannot control!

#5: They are kind.

They are fair and unafraid to speak up. They don’t worry about pleasing other people.

#6: They are willing to take calculated risks.

They weigh the risks and benefits BEFORE taking action.

#7: They invest their energy in the present.

They don’t dwell in the past.

#8: They accept FULL RESPONSIBILITY for their past behavior.

And they DON’T make the same mistake OVER and OVER.

#9: They celebrate OTHER people’s success.

They don’t resent their success.

#10: They are willing to fail.

They don’t give up after failing. They see every failure as a chance to IMPROVE!

#11: They enjoy their time alone.

They don’t FEAR being alone.

#12: They are prepared to work and succeed on their own merits.

They don’t feel the world owes them ANYTHING!

#13: They have staying power.

They don’t expect immediate results.

#14: They evaluate their core beliefs.

And? They modify them as needed.

#15: They expend their mental energy wisely.

They don’t spend time on unproductive thoughts.

#16: They think productively.

They replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts.

#17: They tolerate discomfort.

They accept their feelings without being CONTROLLED by them.

#18: They reflect on their progress every day.

They take time to consider what they’ve achieved and WHERE they are GOING!

How DO You Recognize a Troll?

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How do you recognize a troll?

Better yet? How do you stop one?

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Yeah, you heard me. Those trolls can be stopped.

I’ve been using the internet since before I hit puberty, so I’ve had my fair share of trolls trolling on me and my friends.

Sometimes they may start as well-meaning, peaceful creatures …

Sometimes they may initially present their true nature so you are prepped to whom you are speaking …

But really … How do you recognize a troll?

No, they may not look like this:

trollface

Or this:

left troll right troll

Or even like these magical creatures:

rainbow trolls

But I ran into one today that inspired this post. The details of what transpired are not important. What’s important is the process I went through in a very short few minutes that I would like to share with you so you might learn from my mistakes.

Personal Emotional & Physical Cues

I was getting frustrated.

I could feel my breathing become shallow ….

I could begin to feel my lips purse together and wrinkles forming upon my brow.

My body temperature may have rose a bit, but I don’t know if that’s physiology or just that I’m getting over being really sick … LOL!

When Could I Tell?

Well, aside from the emotional and physical cues for myself personally …

Grammar and spelling for one.

I personally find it to be super lazy to not use capitalization or full sentences, and SERIOUSLY INVADED WHEN SOMEONE ALWAYS USES ALL CAPS.

You’re yelling.

The whole internet world knows it.

Just cause your friends do it … you going to jump off that bridge too? (Not all peer pressure is a good thing.)

When they clearly had no idea what they were talking about …

Like here:

trolling

I didn’t get mad until the name calling began (what you saw here was just the end of it and I’m not really sure who that was directed to) …

But then she called me dumb …

I graduated in 4 years with a Bachelor of Science degree in Computer Science (programming) from Texas Christian University [where most students with this degree graduate in 5 years] with a minor in Italian (which required 5 weeks of study in Italy to acquire).

TCU emblem

And I was only able to go because:

  • I had a high GPA in high school
  • I was able to test out of a full semester of college before attending any post-secondary (past high school or trade school IMO) course
  • my father passed away the month before I turned 13 … From the inheritance I received after splitting it with my 3 step-siblings (whom I love and adore like they were my own flesh and blood) and my father’s Goddaughter… I put all of it into my education. ((And I STILL came out with a ton of school loans BTW))
  • I studied hard (even with the distractions I attracted to my life) and didn’t really take a lot of time to have fun while I was in college

>>> What’s the cost of your education? <<<

 

And in that same statement call me an ignorant broad …

… her lack of vocabulary as well as her understanding of her current internal dictionary was just so painful at times. o(>_<)O

The Show Stopper?

When I realized where we had ended up:

from discussing how this video was atrocious …

… to how for “different cultures” it’s different?

I realized I had been trolled.

She may not have intentionally meant to …

She probably truly believed that we were wrong and she was right …

But she was trollin’.

How did I stop her?

 

  1. By chilling out.

  2. Smiling.

  3. Not feeding the troll. DNFTT

  4. Using logic against her.

  5. Not adding more fuel to the fire after her “final post”

 

Because we all know it’s never the “final post” … right?

troll be gone

Do you have any funny troll stories to share?

Perhaps you were the troll?

Leave a comment below!

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