29 Quintessential Success, Money And Life Quotes

2015-02-02 By Kassandra 6 Comments

Do you enjoy listening to wise words from people you admire?

Do you look for and take time to analyze information that will help provide you with progress toward a more prosperous and fulfilled life?

I’m sure you do – otherwise you probably have no ambition!

I know that most people, including myself, have at one point in life struggled with their finances. And this can be tough. Especially when you don’t have someone to model after or knowledge on how to decrease your debt and increase your wealth.

So today I wanted to provide some wonderful, inspiring, and quite honestly essential quotes on success, money, and life.

“Great quotes encapsulate big ideas in few words. They inspire, motivate, and encourage in a memorable way.” – Thank you Rob Berger!

Too many people spend money they earned… to buy things they don’t want… to impress people that they don’t like.

Will Rogers

Have you ever done this? I know I have. I’ve gone to places I didn’t want to, spent money I really didn’t need to spend (or didn’t have) and all to do what? Impress someone? Feel like I fit in?

It can be hard to say no to your friends, but keep in mind you don’t HAVE to spend money to have a good time! And if you don’t like the place chosen? Suggest somewhere else!

And you DEFINITELY don’t have to be around people you don’t like. This is YOUR life. You should spend the 24 hours a day you have with the people you like who lift you up, and live a life of happiness, wealth and prosperity.

And if you don’t like your life? Do something to change it! Be around people who have what you want. Learn from them! Don’t be afraid to ask for help or advice from them. Every successful person started from somewhere — and most of them were not born with it, either!
An investment in knowledge pays the best interest.

Benjamin Franklin

This quote is true on so many levels.

Did you know that as of 2008, 1/3 of all high school graduates never read another book after school? And as per this site:

When I was first told of these statistics, I was floored!

It’s no wonder my success coaches always tell me to read 10 pages of a “good book” a day! That’s 3,650 pages a year (or about 10+ books) … Think about how more well versed, educated, and knowledgeable you would be among your peers if you just read 10 pages a day on a subject that would advance your life …

Do you read daily? If so, what books do you read? Leave a comment at the bottom!
I will tell you the secret to getting rich on Wall Street. You try to be greedy when others are fearful. And you try to be fearful when others are greedy.

Warren Buffett

I hear this all the time from investors. Kind of like the advice of “buy low sell high” … But more like “Don’t do what everyone else is doing” …
Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure nineteen six, result happiness. Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure twenty pound ought and six, result misery.

Charles Dickens

Basically save more than you spend. It’s that simple.

If you spend more than you earn, you will have problems.
Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.

Thomas Edison

Seriously. If people truly understood this, we would not only have more entrepreneurs, we would have more people with higher self esteem and higher levels of happiness.

Too often, when introduced to something that could have a powerful impact on one’s life, people are too afraid of it and make weird excuses to not take advantage of said opportunity.
What we really want to do is what we are really meant to do. When we do what we are meant to do, money comes to us, doors open for us, we feel useful, and the work we do feels like play to us.

Julia Cameron

When you do what you love, it no loner seems like work, right? And when you do what you love, what you’re passionate about? Money comes! It’s weird and woo woo … But it’s true. Law of Attraction!
Many people take no care of their money till they come nearly to the end of it, and others do just the same with their time.

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

We all only have 24 hours in day … but most of us squander it. Whether it’s vegging out in front of the electronic income reducer (T.V.), wasting time with people we don’t like, or trading time for money …

Instead of doing this, why not spend your time doing something that will help move you forward with your dream? Why not do things you love? Do things that challenge you?
Formal education will make you a living; self-education will make you a fortune.

Jim Rohn

Pretty straight forward.
Financial peace isn’t the acquisition of stuff. It’s learning to live on less than you make, so you can give money back and have money to invest. You can’t win until you do this.

Dave Ramsey

Live on less than you make so you don’t spend more than you earn. Makes sense, right?

And giving (whether in time or money) provides the fulfillment of a part of a human need as per Tony Robbins.
Happiness is not in the mere possession of money; it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of creative effort.

Franklin D. Roosevelt

For those that expect something for nothing? They’ll never understand this.
Empty pockets never held anyone back. Only empty heads and empty hearts can do that.

Norman Vincent Peale
I think this speaks for itself, too.
It’s good to have money and the things that money can buy, but it’s good, too, to check up once in a while and make sure that you haven’t lost the things that money can’t buy.

George Lorimer

If you only focus on earning money, what good is that if you lose your friends and family? If you lose yourself?
If money is your hope for independence you will never have it. The only real security that a man will have in this world is a reserve of knowledge, experience, and ability.

Henry Ford
Money is a terrible master but an excellent servant.

P.T. Barnum

If you allow money to rule you, you will only get hurt. You will focus on the lack of it.

But if you make money your servant, you can do so many things. Not only can money pay for your bills, but it will allow you to achieve the dreams you have PAST your bills…
I’m a great believer in luck, and I find the harder I work the more I have of it…

Thomas Jefferson

I personally don’t believe in luck. I believe you create it – by having the proper mindset, focus, and action!
You must gain control over your money or the lack of it will forever control you.

Dave Ramsey

If you do not follow the advice of these quotes (that of living below your means, investing in yourself, investing in ventures that will create a passive residual income, etc) then you will always be worried about money …

Worried about how you’ll earn enough to pay bills … Worried about how you can save up enough to take that vacation ….

Wouldn’t you rather be in a position where you wouldn’t have to worry about money?

Where money didn’t control your every purchase decision? (Or any decision?)
Every time you borrow money, you’re robbing your future self.

Nathan W. Morris

When you borrow money, you’re basically spending money you don’t have. Which means that is that much less money you’ll have in the future because you have to pay off what you took from your future self.
Rich people have small TVs and big libraries, and poor people have small libraries and big TVs.

Zig Ziglar

Falls along the same lines of investing in yourself!
Never spend your money before you have it.

Thomas Jefferson

You don’t want to steal from yourself, now do you?
It’s not how much money you make, but how much money you keep, how hard it works for you, and how many generations you keep it for.

Robert Kiyosaki

This is something I try to have people understand because it is of the utmost importance if you wish to leave a legacy for your children and lead a life with less stress than the average person.

Again – live below your means and don’t spend more than you earn.

Make your money work for you by investing in things that will have a return on your investment … Like stocks, rental properties, a network marketing business that will create multiple passive residual income streams … THAT is how you create generational wealth … Because then you can also teach your family to do the same!
Without continual growth and progress, such words as improvement, achievement, and success have no meaning.

Benjamin Franklin

Personal development is key for progress! Without it, you fall prey to the misguided ideas of people who feel entitled and do not understand how entrepreneurship works … those who feel that the rich are evil and should be punished for their hard work …
The only place where success comes before work is in the dictionary.

Vidal Sassoon
Success is walking from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.

Winston Churchill

If you allow the times you have failed to stop you from continuing to progress toward a desired dream? Then you are a failure.

BUT! If you do not allow those failures to stop you, then you are a success! Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal.
Don’t let the fear of losing be greater than the excitement of winning.

Robert Kiyosaki

Sometimes people are presented with opportunities that are really exciting and can change their lives for the better! But they allow their fears to get in the way.

Fear that they’re not enough. Fear that they might lose. Fear that they won’t be successful.

But you MUST allow the excitement of winning to overcome that … Or else you will never achieve the goals are really in your heart!
Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success.

Dale Carnegie
We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.

Winston Churchill
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do.

Mark Twain

Why not take a chance on yourself? You’d be amazed with how strong you are … How smart and creative you are …

But if you’re too scare to take a change or ask for help to build your future … You will live with regret.
Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Sometimes it may be hard to blaze your own trail. And you may lose some “friends” along the way.

But just remember – if it’s worth doing, it’s worth the risk. And while there’s room for everyone at the top, not everyone is ready to be there.
Do the one thing you think you cannot do. Fail at it. Try again. Do better the second time. The only people who never tumble are those who never mount the high wire. This is your moment. Own it.

Oprah Winfrey

There are many ways to save, invest, and earn money.

What are some of the ways you save, invest or earn money?

I would love to see your comments below!

If you’re looking to save, you can check out some of my previous posts, like 5 Useful Tools to Manage Money.

If you’re looking to invest, there’s so many tools at your disposal!

But if you’re looking to earn money … Keep in mind that the best way to earn money is to do so by investing in something that will provide you with residual income. Whether it is owning a rental property, a network marketing business, or some other type of investment that makes money on your money’s money … Just do it! We all only have 24 hours a day … do you really want to spend it in a cubicle and / or working to make someone else rich?

If you are involved in a direct sales company (by the way good for you if you are!), then you MUST check out this community that has been helping thousands of people increase their sales:

7 Lessons Learned From My Last 21 Day Blogging Challenge

2015-02-01 By Kassandra Leave a Comment

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Have you ever been part of a blogging challenge? If not, then you should!

I’m sharing this today because tomorrow I’m joining up with a few thousand other people for another 21 day blogging challenge! And I’m hoping that what I share today, and throughout this next challenge, you’ll be inspired to start your own!

Law of Attraction

My success mentors always say, “What you focus on expands.” And it’s true!

The Law of Attraction is basically, “What you think about (and take action on ) you bring about.” And by blogging daily, with the focus on one of my passions, I saw more opportunities come about for me to share with you
It’s Possible to Write a Blog Within an Hour

Most of the time, it took me at least an hour or more to research, write the blog, and get the photos done for each post. — But that’s because of 2 things.

1 — I didn’t do my research beforehand. I’d have a general idea as to what I wanted to write about, but then I would do my research in the allotted time I outlined for myself to do all of what was needed for the blog … But this isn’t time efficient.

2 — I didn’t use the tools at my disposal! The blog you’re reading my post from is utilizing a blogging platform called Kalatu. To make the explanation short, Kalatu is THE BEST blogging platform out there! Not only does it utilize WordPress, but it also (a) allows you to market whatever you want without penalty, (b) nothing you put on the blog will ever be taken down [unless it’s illegal], (c) provides multiple ways to help spark your imagination [like providing a headline, blog templates, and more]!
Blogging Is a Great Way to Learn About Social Media

If you are using your blog to have an online diary, then you probably don’t care about social media.

But if you’re an entrepreneur trying to get your business more traffic, you MUST have a blog! People only buy from you when they like you and trust you. And what better way to show someone who you are than with a blog where you share things that you’re passionate about and can attract others like you to what you do?

When you’re trying to bring in more traffic, you MUST know a thing or two about social media. Otherwise, the time you spend might be wasted. So along the process, you have to find someone who knows what they’re doing, learn from them, and take daily action to implement what you learn!

That’s one of the reasons I love one of the businesses I’m in — not only do I have a team of people who are eager to see me succeed, but who also teach me information on how to increase my earnings online AND my knowledge of social media and internet marketing! It’s a proven system that not only condenses the information you might find through Google, but also tells you what is working RIGHT NOW, not what was working 3-5 years ago or more.

If you’d like more information, be sure to click here!

Or, if you don’t want a condensed, packaged, step by step formula for utilizing social media and online marketing to learn how to make money online, then you can go the time consuming (and possibly more frustrating) of Googling and trying to learn it all on your own. [Which it can be done – I know several who did it and made bank!]
With My Particular Blogging Challenge – You Can Win Prizes!

During my last challenge, the first part was simply to complete the challenge. And by doing so, I got the following badge I can proudly display on my site:

Sure, someone could be a bit uncouth and swipe it for themselves and SAY they survived the blogging challenge …. But I have the pride of knowing that I actually did it! I blogged daily for 21 days. It was rough sometimes with my schedule, but it was worth it! 🙂

What’s great is that every person who completed this challenge got this reward, too! So it wasn’t a concession prize like too many people try to offer these days to make people “feel better” or whatever. We earned this badge and proudly wave it!

Now, what I’m REALLY excited about were the other prizes that came about. For example:

— one couple who blogged together won the “Most Passionate Bloggers” award, which means that they got to have their own Kalatu design created for them … and we all get to celebrate with them and use their design!

— another blogger won “Kalatu Blogging Idol” … I think this just means they got the most votes for favorite blogger? They got something pretty nifty from that, as well!

— another set of bloggers used their blog to market one of their businesses and got a cash prize for most ALL IN sales! I mean, who does stuff like that? Awesome people, that’s who! Now results not typical and individual results vary based on your knowledge and own hard work … But that’s frickin’ awesome! And they totally earned it because they followed a system and utilized the knowledge at their fingertips!

Now, I’m not sure what they’ll be giving out this time, but I’m super stoked to find out!
There Are Several Resources to Help Inspire You!

As I mentioned before, the Kalatu blogging platform is phenomenal! You get stuff like:

— a plugin that gives you headline that gives you plugin suggestions

— a plugin that suggests ideas for you to blog about

— a plugin that provides a template for you to write out a blog and then formats it for you

And if that’s not enough, it also provides you with places to go to in order to get ideas like:

— HowStuffWorks

— LifeHacker

And if all else fails … Google is your friend!

QUICK TIP: When you Google something, at the bottom of the page are related words other people are looking for that are similar to what you searched for. So while you may not find the results you’re looking for, the other keywords listed just might provide you with a new list!
It’s Good For Your Brain!

As I’ve said in a previous post, doing something different helps your brain! Doing something different does all kinds of good things for your brain and helps you out in other ways as well.

And if you’ve been blogging for a while, doing a challenge like this is still good for your brain! Why?

Because you begin to form a habit, for one. And for another – successful people always complete the challenges they take on. Successful people don’t. So why not take on this easy challenge, right?

You also are putting your voice out there! When you blog about what you’re passionate about, you not only provide valuable information people can search for, but you allow others to reach your corner of the internet. This in turn allows you the opportunity to provide value to people you haven’t met yet.

Maybe it’s a DIY on a neck wrap to help with neck pain … maybe it’s information on how gaming is actually beneficial for you … Maybe it’s simply information on how to earn money online … Whatever it is, blogging is an easy way to get your opinions out there in order to get your voice heard and potentially affect thousands of other people in a positive way!
You Can Make Money Blogging

Seriously! I just came back from an event for one of my businesses wherein I was FLOORED to find out how many of those there had made money by blogging … And how MUCH they made … Now, not all results are typical and individual results will vary (see average income earnings here) … But I met so many people who had replaced their incomes from blogging … And a ton of people who made some money within their first week! (I even met someone who made a few hundred in their first day!)

I even met several people who had made over $1,000,000 (that’s 1 million dollars peeps) by following a simple system, learning how to utilize social media and online marketing, and helping others do the same.

And you can, too!

Want to know more? Then click here!

If you would like to join me on this next blogging challenge, not only is it FREE but you don’t have to have a Kalatu blog! I’d love for you to join and allow me to be your accountability partner. It’ll be fun, and you’ll learn so much from the process and the challenge … It’s incredibly rewarding! Just be sure to click on this image:

And if you’re interested in learning how to earn money while blogging (and reap the benefits) then you should definitely get more information by checking out the below information:

To Black Card or Not To Black Card

2015-01-29 By Kassandra 2 Comments

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In our society today, we’re told that if we spend more, then we can get rid of debt, right?

No? But isn’t that what the American government has done with our country’s debt?

We all want to feel like VIPs, but do the perks outweigh the cost?

Back in the day they used to make classes like Home Economics a requirement. And they used to teach things like balancing a checkbook, typical money management skills you would need for the home, as well as cooking tips, sewing, and more. These days that type of class is generally focused on housework skills and is now an elective.

But in what other class do they teach you about the consequences of debit? Credit cards? And the effects of borrowing money when used for commercial consumerism vs investing in your future and your financial freedom?

You would think that the economics classes would teach this. But they’re mostly theory and world economics – not about how to increase your own personal wealth and teach other people how to produce and create generational wealth by avoiding the pitfalls of the average money mentality.

I grew up with a mother who did her best to teach me at least some of these things – the things she has come across in her own lifetime. Like …

Don’t spend money you don’t have … unless it’s an emergency! Then pay it off as quickly as you can to avoid interest fees.

I also heard things like …

Once you pay down your debt, only use the card in case of emergencies.

Sounds like maybe going into debt should only be used for times of emergency?

But how do you define an emergency?

And if this is how credit cards are taught to be used in family households, then how is it that according to CNN the Average America household in 2012 had at least one credit card with nearly $15,950 on it?

Looks like that went down to an average US household debt at $15,611 in 2014 according to Nerd Wallet. In total, Americans owe $11.74 TRILLION in debt, which is up 3.3% from 2013, with $882.6 BILLION of that debt being on credit cards.

Where does all of that money go?

I really feel like these 2 less than 2 minute videos from the season 2 episode 5 of Friends (The One with Five Steaks and an Eggplant) shows it really well:

What I caught from this episode is truly very simple …

Both the people who make a lot of money (but have a lot of debt to pay down) and those that make minimum wage or even those in the middle class (with little to no debt) have in common …

People who have more fluid finances (by fluid I mean extra spending cash after all of the bills are paid) tend to not really think about where there friends who have less spending cash at the end of the month can afford to do.

People forget that you don’t have to spend money to have a good time.

People forget that not everyone is in the same financial situation.

People generally do not have an effective way to manage their finances.

I followed the old way of thinking about money … I got good grades when I was younger so I could attend a great college and get a degree …

But because I didn’t get all of the aid I needed to go to college (and my mother wasn’t rolling in cash) I was forced to not only use every piece of aid I could find, I had to use just about all of what was left to me after my father’s death in 1999 and I still went into debt. [Because it costs a lot to go to a school you feel to be prestigious and would look good on a résumé.]

And no matter what I did, it felt like I was still getting more and more into debt.

Looking back now, I know how it happened:

Didn’t keep a better eye on my spending habits
Didn’t have a way to manage money
Constantly spending money trying to take care of others who were not taking care of themselves (being an enabler)

And they were all from my choices …

I made the choice to continue to be an enabler for someone.

I chose to take the opportunity to spend a chunk of my inheritance traveling to Italy (an AMAZING experience a lot of people never do in their lifetime) in order to study abroad and get my minor in Italian when it could have been used for bills or to pay for my schooling …

I made those choices. And I’m living the consequences.

But I’m also overcoming them.

I’ve been diving into personal development, ways to eliminate debt and increase wealth … And I’ve not only been sharing this with you guys throughout my journey, but I have also been using these in my own life and have been working on building up my credit and knocking down my debt.

And funny thing about that …

Apparently, whatever your credit worthiness may be, you get credit card offers for all kinds of things … but apparently? If you have excellent credit, you might be sent the Visa Black Card.

In January, I was invited “by limited invitation” to be a Visa Black Card member … Flippin’ AWESOME perks … But it’s $495 a year and 14.99% APR.

black card

The perks seem like it would be worth it … But at this time when I’m trying to pay down my debt? This is not a wise choice. (Dang did I feel fancy, though!)

I’ll be honest – it was tempting! Super tempting … But why put myself in a situation that could potentially increase my debt, rather than help eliminate it?

(Unless it was to invest in something that would create a passive residual income, of course.)

At some point in the future, maybe this will be something I would use (like use it for purchases but immediately pay it off because I already had the cash) …

Now, for some memberships the perks of being a VIP black card member far outweigh the potential setbacks …

But it’s up to you to make the financial choices that will either put you further into debt?

Or if your financial choices place you in the path towards financial freedom. 🙂

What are you doing to become financially free? Are you listening to people who have what you want? Leaders who can help you achieve your dreams?

Or perhaps you’re embarking on an adventure with your friends to bring about positive change in the lives of others?

Whatever the case may be, please leave a comment with how you are making positive financial changes, whether by eliminating debt, creating generational wealth, or helping others do the same … I want to hear from you in the comments below!

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I heard stories about a bitter broke bartender who got herself and a friend signed up into this amazing opportunity and was able to completely turn her life around … And while I still love how anyone can do what she did and completely change their financial future with that product and that business …

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How Not to Break Facebook Relationship Etiquette

2015-01-26 By Kassandra 4 Comments

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Have you ever been scorned by someone online through a Facebook status? Perhaps they either didn’t change their relationship to “In a Relationship” with you or gave some lame excuse not to be somewhere and then blasted that they were having fun doing something else for the same time they cancelled their plans with you for.

How insensitive, right?

I know I’ve been victim of this myself, in some form or fashion. Like when the guy I dated for an extremely extended amount of time never changed his relationship status (until I bugged him about it for a while) and never posted any photos of us together (but did with every woman he was with after me) … At the time, it drove me nuts! (Maybe it was a clue – you think?) And when someone would punk out on plans with me, then a few hours later I would see them having a grand old time someplace else? Oh man, you can bet your britches that I was irked! And I have often thought of retaliating or calling said person out in those situations… Wouldn’t you? Of course you would! It’s only natural, right?

That’s why when I saw the YourTango video on tips for Facebook relationship etiquette I just had to share! I couldn’t help but laugh at the humorous take they had on the whole thing and how many people so often break the unwritten rules of Facebook relationship etiquette, or rather what this YourTango YouTube video calls “Facebook Manners” for responsible relationships.

The original video has been posted for your viewing pleasure, YourTango’s 5 Rules of Facebook Relationship Etiquette, as well as my suggestions for how you can avoid breaking said unwritten rules.

5 Rules of Facebook Relationship Etiquette and How Not to Break Them

Rule #1: Don’t Change Your Relationship Status Without Consulting the Other Person

This seems like a given, right? But we all know that common sense isn’t so common … And some people are just cruel … Or chickens. I mean who breaks up over Facebook to avoid confrontation? Not only is it crass, but the recipient of the “break up” may never know, continue to call you and/or bug your mutual friends (if you were avoiding them after this fiasco).

The information age has made it easier to be less humane to others, and this needs to stop. Be an adult. If you’re going to be in a relationship with someone, if you decide you do not wish to be in said relationship anymore – TELL THEM! Even if it’s all tears and snot coming out of their nose when you break the news to them, it’s much better to give someone less fuel to be upset about by being personable and not leaving it to them to find out over the internet.

Seriously. If nothing else, pick up the phone and call them. DO NOT TEXT THEM! That’s almost as bad as not telling them that your relationship is over and they find out through a change in their Facebook relationship status …

Rule #2: Don’t Post Embarrassing Photographs of Other People

It’s that whole “do unto others as you would have done unto you” bit. Would you be a happy camper if one of your friends posted a really unflattering photo of you? Even if they took it down, someone somewhere most likely still has a copy …

Not only that, but if you’re not careful, you could ruin someone’s reputation or even their livelihood! Impossible you say? What if they’re employer (or possible future employer) saw your “friend” in a photo that was less than stellar, they made whatever assumption about what was going on in it (whether it was true or not) and then that person go fired or was never hired for their dream job? I don’t know about you, but I’d feel like an asshat.

It’s simple friendship etiquette, people. And when a friend asks you to take it down? Do it. Or black out their face so it’s unrecognizable. Just saying.

Rule #3: Be Discreet When Posting Messages on Another Person’s Wall

If everyone knew how to set their Facebook privacy settings properly, this MIGHT not be a big deal. However, most people allow for others to comment on their wall and it’s visible for the whole world to see.

When you post sensitive messages or call out someone on their Facebook wall, you’re basically airing their dirty laundry. I’m sure you haven’t done anything like this though since you’re momma taught you better than that right?

Keep in mind that while you may feel better about it and the post may be deleted later, it’s the internet. Somewhere the data you put on that wall of that jerk who stood you up and aired their dirty laundry? You’ll likely find references to it somewhere on Google, thanks to SEO.

And while you may be angry with them for slighting you for whatever reason – stay classy! It is uncouth and can even have a similar effect on someone’s work status or otherwise as seen in a story in this article on WIRED.

“At its worst, it’s a weapon of mass reputation destruction, capable of amplifying slander, bullying, and casual idiocy on a scale never before possible.”

Shaming someone online can even be akin to bullying, if taken too far. So why not be the bigger person and just be discreet … or in other words don’t be a dumb bunny. Address the person privately, not publicly.

And if you still feel the need to call someone out on their bullshyte, then check out this article on LifeHacker.

Remember:

“Online shaming is a door that swings only one way: You may have the power to open it, but you don’t have the power to close it. And sometimes what rushes through that door can engulf you too.”

Rule #4: Don’t Steal Other People’s Friends

This Facebook relationship etiquette rule is kind of an odd one, because if you become friends with another person’s friends through mutual gatherings or excursions, you are not really “stealing other people’s friends” … You became friends with them through normal interaction.

What I believe that this rule applies to is when you go to the friends list of someone and add people you never met or barely know. That’s just creepy and weird. I personally don’t normally add anyone unless I know them or they message me and have some kind of a discussion.

Most people these days just add people willy nilly without any interaction. I don’t know if it’s because they just want a crap ton of friends on Facebook, they don’t understand how the follow button works, or what.

And for those on the receiving end of a random friend request? Sometimes you pick your brain going, “Do I know this person?” So you check mutual friends … and when you have several mutual friends, you think “Oh, I must know this person because they have 50+ of my friends, too” right? Yeah … that’s not necessarily true. They may be one of these Facebook relationship etiquette breakers!

Rule #5: Don’t Start Hate Groups

Just don’t. With all of the bullying out there, you never know when something like this might push someone over the edge.

How would you feel if someone started a group all about talking smack about you and how much you suck or how much someone disliked you? Unless you have a high degree of personal development, like most people you would probably feel really bad, right? Maybe even angry?

When someone slights you – kill them with kindness! Hate groups do nothing but cause more hate and more negativity. Don’t put that out into the universe. Forgive and let go.

Recently I came across this article on Psychology Today about being slighted. What I found really interesting about it is that there’s a section that says:

When we feel slighted, it may seem that the offence comes from the outside, but ultimately, we are the ones who allow ourselves to feel slighted. In the wise words of Eleanor Roosevelt, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

This goes right along in line with some of the things that Tony Robbins and T Harv Eker teach … Thoughts lead to feelings, feelings lead to actions, actions lead to results! Therefore you determine how you feel in reaction to an event that happens to you, such as someone breaking Facebook relationship etiquette.

So next time you feel slighted by someone on Facebook (a.k.a. the Electric Friendship Generator as described in the video), you should just let it go. And as the end of the video says …

“Remember – have good Facebook manners and the electric friendship generator will be more fun for everyone!”

And nothing good ever comes from being easily offended.

What about you? Was there a time you ever felt slighted? Did you retaliate? I would love to hear from you in the comments section below!

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What REALLY Happens When You Get Angry (And How to Deal)

2015-01-21 By Kassandra 1 Comment

So … having emotional intelligence (EI) means you have the ability to not only monitor other people’s emotions (being empathetic) but you’re also able to monitor your own. You can discriminate and label each emotion appropriately and use emotional information in order to guide your behavior and thoughts. Studies have shown that people with a higher EI have more potent leadership skills, greater mental health, and exemplary job performance.

But the curious thing? Most people don’t know how to have a high EI. We just fly by the seat of our pants and feel entitled to our emotions, regardless of how we got to that emotional state.

Something I learned from T Harv Eker and Tony Robbins is that:

Your thoughts lead to feelings.

Your feelings lead to actions.

Your actions produce your results.

Anger is a natural emotion and it alerts us to when something has violated “the natural order” of how we think things should go, whether it’s someone arguing with you about something you know for a fact is truth or if a shopper has 20 items in a 10 item limit line. That emotion triggers a bodily reaction that is meant to motivate us to restore the balance of “right and wrong” … yet in order to do so effectively we must not only get angry for the right reason but express our anger appropriately.

This morning I got into a fight with my wonderful, caring boyfriend and we both inadvertently expressed our lack of EI today. Through misunderstanding, our need to be right, and (at least for me) lack of sleep we had an argument that escalated into anger and harsh words were spoken – which made it worse.

INTERESTING FACT: Anger in women is more likely triggered by their close relationships, especially when they feel let down by loved ones or that these people expect too much and give nothing in return.

Needless to say, we both have a high enough EI that we could work through it and past it quickly enough, but I wanted to share this with you as it inspired me to do some research on anger and how it affects your mind and body.

Anger induces stress on your body … And stress is a silent killer. It’s amazing what it does to your body. I won’t go into it much now, but if you have the time you should watch the documentary. Here’s the YouTube for it:

Anywho … I couldn’t stop thinking about how quickly things escalated and how it could have been avoided … And how it reinforced the knowledge that personal development is a MUST in order to have a higher EI!

But back to the subject at hand … I wanted to provide you with some information on anger – what it does to you and ways with which to deal.

One of the sites I found was a Reader’s Digest one as well as a HowStuffWorks article (which I HIGHLY recommend you reading because it has so much more content than I am sharing in this post), but you can Google it and find tons on this subject!

What happens to our bodies when we get mad or angry?

— our rational frontal lobes shut down

— reflexive back areas of the brain take over

— left hemisphere of the brain becomes more stimulated as the hormonal & cardiovascular responses kick in

— body pumps out cholesterol & catecholamines (which encourage fatty deposits to pile up in the heart & carotid arteries)

— “fight or flight” response buts blood flow to your stomach & diverts to your muscles (impacts intestinal-tract contractions and digestive secretions)

— cortisol hormonal surge (bumps oil production, leads to acne & other skin issues)

— if you’re prone to frequent & prolonged eruptions of rage, it can be difficult to return to a relaxed state (over time can impact your immune system)

How to Deal With Anger

Retrain Your Brain

This is actually something I was learning at the Unleash the Power Within event by Tony Robbins I went to this past year in Dallas, and partly with what I’ve learned from T Harv Eker. Remember – thoughts lead to your feelings … so if you’re feeling something you recognize is not a good emotion, challenge yourself to think of something else!

Or you can do cognitive restructuring (“thought stopping”), which is the process of identifying and disputing irrational or maladaptive thoughts. Kind of the same thing … kind of. LOL!

Book An Appointment

Apparently there is such a thing as cognitive behavioral therapy. Basically you learn to spot anger triggers and control your reactions.

Deep Breaths!

Deep breathing (or even just breathing exercises) help to slow your heart rate that the FOF reaction increased. Keep your mind focused on something that is NOT the source of your stress.

Sweat It Out!

Exercise has a TON of benefits, and when you’re angry provides an outlet for the anger. Getting those feel-good brain chemicals will help, too! 😉

There is also the option of medication, but I’m always leery of this since our society focuses so much on masking the problem instead of fixing it. But there is this option, as well. I would just strongly suggest alternative methods first. And give them time. It takes almost a month of consistent work to form a habit.

You can find additional methods for controlling anger here.

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