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Last Updated on 2014-12-02 by Kassandra
“The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships.”
– Tony Robbins
A lot of times people are brought up to believe things like:
- I don’t need anyone.
- I can do it all myself.
- I’m strong! I don’t need any help.
- I can take care of myself.
Have you ever had one of these thoughts? Do you know someone else who may act in such a way as to embody these thoughts?
People need people. It’s as simple as that. Unless you become a self-sustaining hermit out in the middle of no where … You will have to encounter other people. You need them to barter/trade/sell/purchase things from. You need them to work in collaboration to achieve a common goal.
Throughout my life, I have met a countless number of people. Some have become the most wonderful of friends & chosen family … Some decided to forever leave my life. And with every encounter, I learned an important lesson.
Friends Cure The Loneliness
When you’re feeling down, when you feel all alone … Your friends are the ones that will lift you up, make you smile, and want to see you happy. Sometimes we don’t want to reach out and “bother” our friends … But we forget that our friends are our bosom pals who would NEVER want us to feel lonely! We all get busy sometimes, and in those times we may forget to call, but when you reach out they’re there!
True Friends Stick With You Through the Hard Times
We all go through ups and downs in life … Sometimes we seem to have more of one than the other … And while I am a firm believer you can change your own future, sometimes it’s that friend by your side or on the phone who is needed in that moment. They may be a guiding hand to help you through murky waters, a clear head to help you see the light, and sometimes they may be the last leg for you to stand on. Regardless of what role they play on your “dark day” your real friends don’t abandon you when times get tough or emotional. They don’t give up on you – they help you through until you can pass back into the light!
Friends Stick Up For You
When friends see you through the rough patches, they’ve also seen you when things are wonderful … so they know your true nature. And if you’ve been a friend to them, been open and honest, they know who you really are. So when someone tries to defame, slander, or drag you through the mud, you know that the people who love you will already know your heart and will not be swayed by lies.
Friends Never Want to See You Hurting
I personally would rather someone NEVER lie to me (even to spare my feelings) … But sometimes they may say a little white lie now and then to do so. Sometimes they may never speak up at all on a situation you’re in if they think you’re happy (regardless of how they feel about it). Everyone has their own way of supporting their friends … I personally would rather someone be completely open, honest, and forward — as long as you’re coming to me out of love then whatever you have to say is coming from a good place.
True Friends Are Honest
They won’t lie to you. They won’t hide things from you. PERIOD. (Excluding above references … So I guess make your own judgement of the situations as they happen.)
Friends Give
They give because they love you. They give because they can. They give because you need it, and they give because you are friends. Whether it’s putting $100 in your mailbox anonymously, or whether they are giving of their time to help you move … whatever the case may be, friends give.
Friends Care
Bottom line is they care. They care about you. Your well being – in all aspects of your life.
So if you have “friends” in your life that never seem to find any time for you, never keep their word, never seem to be around when you need them, never seem willing to help … Are they truly a friend in the first place?
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LOL o dear you called me out. I have said all those things int he beginning but I said it because I was hurt by so many. I am so loyal and pour my all into a friendship. I had to learn not to put to much expectancy on my friend and also learn their love language.
Yes, it can be very hard to pour all of yourself into a friendship or relationship and have them fail to meet your expectations. But we are all human – we all make mistakes. Just remind yourself to stay true to yourself, love and give without expecting anything in return, and only trust people based on their actions (since some people can’t or don’t keep their word).
Ummm…I’ve had all those thoughts BECAUSE of how I grew up, but i can honestly say that once I met my now husband I truly realized how much i needed a friend. When we’re hurt this is how we feel, BUT if we never let anyone in we don’t get a chance to heal and therefore we end up missing on perfect opportunities because we have blocked everyone out. Great post!
Thanks Theresa! I completely agree. 🙂
Ah, so true! So…what does an adult do to find friends?
Oh there’s lots of things! You can start a group on Facebook (or find one) that caters to people in your area with the same interests … you could start an event in your group for a bi-weekly get together or whatever works for your schedule. If that doesn’t work, there’s also http://www.meetup.com/ where you can do the same thing but don’t have to use Facebook to do it. — I’ll try to write a blog post on this soon. Thanks for the idea!
Great post Kassandra, often many are under the illusion that success is achieved off of solo efforts which is simply not the case. There is no I in Team.
I completely agree, Alesha. Thanks for stopping by. 🙂
love the post, thanks for sharing friend =)
Any time, Sheena!
I rarely leave a response, however i did some searching and wound up here
Well thank you for blessing me by stopping by and leaving a rare response! 🙂 I hope I was able to provide value to you in this post.